Archives for December 2016

Happy New Year — A Year of New Beginnings

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“The  Numerology of 2017 shows that the year 2017 will bring new beginnings and much activity. The pioneering spirit makes way for new inventions, new discoveries, or new creations. It’s energy will  bring originality and new ideas.” – AstrologyClub.com

The year of new beginnings. What could be better news than that? Especially since YOU get to pick what a new beginning means for you.

What have you been wishing and hoping to begin or start anew? What ideas, creative endeavors, or changes have been percolating in your heart, mind, and soul?

How long have they been sitting on your so-called workbench waiting for you to build them? Calling to you to share them with others? Begging for you to construct them and show them off?

I know I have several creative projects and programs that have been on my workbench for some time now. Yet, for some reason, each time I would consider launching them, the timing felt off.

I mentioned to my astrology friend, Diane Fleck, that several of my creative ideas this year had either fallen flat or were met by lack of interest. I felt as I had been “barking in the dark,” and no one was listening.

Bark! Bark! Bark! Yap! Yap! Yelp!

Hello? Anyone there?

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Here is what she shared …  2016 was not the best year to launch new ideas. It was, after all, the year of “endings,” and most likely if I had launched my new program, it would not have soared as I would have liked. She encouraged me to do so this year — in 2017. The year of “new beginnings,” a much better time to share and launch a brand new project.What I learned from her gave me a renewed sense of hope — the desire to begin again.

It is encouraging to know that the coming year is one that “bids us all to start something brand new, something that expresses our uniqueness, that uses our leadership abilities, that opens us to new perspectives. 2017 as a One year is a time to think and act independently. It’s also a year to put our leadership abilities and unique talents to use in the greater world, to practice cooperating without losing individuality.” (Read more about 2017)

With that encouragement I leave you to consider what “new beginnings” you wish to embrace? What would you like to create or construct and share with the world? Maybe not so grand as the world, yet important for you to express!

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Intuitive Financial Counselor & Guideatude Coach

“Where there is darkness, I help bring light!”

 

Watch Out Hot Button!

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“Hot buttons are a great portal into the world of your Shadow.”

– Janice Masters, The Shaman Mama

Being criticized. That’s my sure-fire hot button.

I wish I could say that it didn’t go deep for me. However, being an empath and highly-sensitive person, I find that what others think of or say about me, hits hard.

I pick up on their energy even more than their words.

In the past, my tongue would be fast to deny, explain, or push back. Certainly, if they just understood the circumstances or reasons, they would apologize, take back, or revise what they said. However, these days, I find it simply smarter to not respond — at least not quickly.

A quick response got me in more hot water than it helped….a hard lesson learned over the years.

In fact, often it made it much worse.

I asked others what were their sure-fire hot buttons — what set them off with little provocation. Many of the answers, as they flowed in, were true for me, too…..

  • Feeling ignored
  • Feeling like I’m second choice or unimportant
  • Being told what to do — the should’s and have-to’s
  • Anything that makes me feel stupid
  • The word NO
  • Being lied to
  • Being treated as if I am an idiot or like I am stupid
  • Bullies or bullying behavior
  • Being mean to animals or children
  • Not being listened to or being interrupted before finished speaking
  • Stereotypical assumptions
  • Judging superficially according to culture’s common “standards” or patterns of behavior
  • Quick advice or easy answers based on bias — One size fits all

Each of these hot buttons does boil down to feelings, doesn’t it? How or what it made you feel is the key to how likely you’ll remember the event or words that sparked them.

The stronger the emotional response, the deeper it goes — the longer it stays with you. Most are from early childhood.

As a friend said to me, when I was publicly treated rudely at a dinner party, “People may not remember exactly what you did, or what you said, but they will always remember how you made them feel.”

She was so right. Years later I remember how embarrassed and hurt I felt that night, never to forget who said it, either. It buried itself in the tissues of my soul. Only to surge forth when something similar would happen.

That’s how it seems to work — it gets buried. We cover it over and move on. At least for us “grown-ups” it works that way. Children do a better job of expressing in the moment.

Deepak Chopra’s theory is that as we get older we resist dealing with and releasing hurt, but instead hold onto and internalize it. He believes that those internalized emotions eventually manifest into physical ailments — our immune systems are lowered and we are then more prone to illness.

77707564-1a6b-480d-9b03-9906d7bf707bDid you know this is true for financial wellness, too?

I have noticed this with those I counsel on money issues. Long buried hurts that have gone unexpressed, or internalized, show up in their money lives stirring up all sorts of havoc.

Misunderstandings. Misinterpretations. Arguments. Harmful spending habits. Resentment and push-back. Family turmoil. And, quite often, divorce.

None of us wish to lead lives like that — We all desire to lead healthy, vibrant, and abundant lives instead. We just don’t know how to make that happen.

What if, as Janice Masters suggests, your hot buttons are a great portal, or guide, into your shadow self — the side of you that you have suppressed or buried? In other words, your hot buttons are your guide into what needs to be released, addressed, and set free.

Just like a lioness who has been caged far too long…..her desire to be free grows with every moment she is caged. She paces. She growls. She even gets ferocious should you come too close.

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And, like many caged animals, depression, sadness, and lack of energy usually results.

Isn’t it time you set your lioness….your shadow, free?

As to my inclination to correct mistaken beliefs about myself — those hidden behind criticism — I have gotten better at stopping myself before it flies out of my mouth to correct them. A quick retort or push-back does not serve me well.

Instead, I have started to ask, “What is it about the criticism that bugs me so much? Is it about me, or about them? Do I need to clear it up or let it go?”

What is it I am to learn from it? And, maybe, just maybe, the criticism is a gift and not a hot button at all!

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Intuitive Financial Counselor & Guideatude Coach

“Where there is darkness, I help bring light!”