Archives for July 2017

Put aside that proud badge of honor of being busy

Ask anyone, “Hey, what you been up to lately?” and I’ll guarantee the response will sound something like this,I’m so busy! I barely have time to breathe!” 

Or, maybe this, “There’s just not enough hours in the day!”

Of course, it is said in a rush, so as to punctuate the importance of their busyness. To convince those who may listen, that they have a full, accomplished life.

Being busy, these days, is worn as a badge of honor. It is something we have come to be quite proud of and at any opportunity, we readily brag about it to others. 

In fact, we have become so enamored with “being busy,” we worship it as if it is a religion. We are deeply devoted to our made up generally agreed upon beliefs and practices, and, we observe them as if they contain a moral code which governs all human affairs.

Nothing else is as important than being busy, no matter how stretched or exhausted we may become.

Each day, each moment, without question, we scramble from one thing to the next. We work longer and longer hours. We let things pile up undone, bills unpaid. We often ignore family and friends, giving minimal attention to our loved ones. Our self care has taken a backseat to everything else. And, at the end of a long day, we flop into bed exhausted, only to wake to the same chaotic, over-full, tightly packed schedule the next day. 

The insane thing is, we have come to believe, by doing so, we have fulfilled some sort of noble cause.

But, what if being busy is something you are not meant to be proud of? What if busyness is the major reason you do not have what you truly want or desire in life?

What if your money life suffers because of it, even if you make more? 

Believe it or not, there is a correlation between your overly busy lifestyle and your unsatisfactory money life. And, when you release some of your busyness, your money picture nicely shifts right along with it.

How is that possible? Here are seven major reasons why

Reason 1. When you are less busy, you are more present in the moment. You notice opportunities you would otherwise miss. And, you forego those things you used to do (or buy) in haste — those things that didn’t serve you.

Reason 2. When you are less busy, you recognize that motion is not necessarily progress. You then tend to prioritize more effectively and proceed with purpose.

Reason 3. When you are less busy, you notice what are real problems versus those that are not. You expend less energy on putting out fires that weren’t actually fires to begin with.

Reason 4. When you are less busy, you take better care of yourself. You get more sleep. You eat better. Your health improves. You hug more. 

Reason 5. When you are less busy, you take time to learn something new or gain a new skill — like simple, money management skills which then you have time to implement.

Reason 6. When you are less busy, you actually have time to think, plan, and do nothing! You allow time to contemplate life (or your naval) … whatever feels good in the moment. You allow it to unfold.

Reason 7. When you are less busy, you remember to dream.

You actually make room for whatever must take place for that dream to come true.

Money does respond to quiet, purposeful moments. Those moments in which you set your intentions. Those moments when your full attention is on what is truly important to you. 

Those moments in which you listen for the guidance from your soul which is always calling you to your higher purpose — That is, if you but take the time to hear the guidance.

If you do, you will then take action that is intentional, purposeful, and mindful, and in line with your purpose. Not busy, over-extended, or stretched which only leads to burnout and dissatisfaction.

And, by the way, there is nothing more dangerous to money than burnout and dissatisfaction. It is, after all, the reason many of you love to shop!

 

Must have Chocolate!

 

I know you’ve done it. You might as well admit it. There’s no need for secrets between us. I promise not to tell.

I know you did your best to ignore the urges. You even scoured your refrigerator and pantry for the best, and most healthy choices. Maybe you nibbled on a carrot or two or even some celery. I’m sure you even gave a fleeting thought to preparing a heart healthy salad.

Yet, even though you knew it wasn’t the best idea, you did it anyway.

You ate chocolate for dinner!

And, let’s be really honest — you found a way to justify it as a healthy choice, didn’t you? After all, hasn’t science proven that chocolate is chocked full of antioxidants which neutralize those pesky, inflammation causing, free radicals.

Darned good reason to eat chocolate, isn’t it? We certainly do not wish to end up with one of those nasty inflammatory diseases.

And, what is life without chocolate anyway?

At least that’s what I hear from most women I know.

So, why is it we feel so guilty when we eat it? If it’s good for us, why must we feel the need to justify it when we do?

Not to mention, isn’t it crazy how we eat everything else, but the kitchen sink, trying to be “good” versus eat the very thing we crave — the dang chocolate!

Which brings us to the fact that we have to make about 200 decisions each day just about food. What to eat or not. When’s the best time to eat. Ignore those hunger pangs or quick cram something in. Cook or eat out. Grocery shop or just eat that bag of chips and skip the shopping.

Crazy isn’t it? And, this is just about food! 

Not to mention all those other decisions we have to make … To spend or not spend. To do the laundry or go another day with the same underwear. To clear the piles or leave them for the weekend. To pay the bills or go watch television.

The daily decisions seem endless, from the mundane to the must do. Even those things we intentionally ignore or side-step — like Scarlett O’Hara, we say to ourselves, “I’ll think about that tomorrow. After all, tomorrow is another day!” Those, too, are decisions.

Before you get discouraged or overwhelmed, I do have a little secret to impart. They all have something in common, which when applied, would bring ease and clarity to the decisions you have to make. An essential ingredient that would help things go more smoothly.

That ingredient is PURPOSE.

Now, let’s not get this confused with YOUR life purpose. Although, knowing the reason you are on the planet would certainly clear up a lot of puzzling questions you may have about your life. 

What I am speaking to here is LIVING PURPOSEFULLY.

In other words, you get crystal clear on your reason, desire, want or need, and above all else, THAT comes first. Nothing else gets to shove it aside. Nothing else takes priority over it.

Sound simple? It is! And yet, we humans have a tendency to muddle it up. We talk ourselves out of it, makes excuses, or pretend we never wanted it in the first place. 

We do what is called “Upper Limiting” ourselves (Gay Hendricks, PhD. – The Big Leap) — which means as soon as you go beyond some artificial upper limit, a little voice inside you says: ‘You can’t possibly feel this good.’ So, you unwittingly find ways to feel bad and not do it.

You let something less important slip in … like eating chocolate for dinner or spending more money than you intended.

Purposeful living is a choice. One that you consciously make and mindfully tend. If you promised yourself you would eat a well-balanced dinner and not just chocolate (for whatever reason you deemed important to do so), then that’s what you do.

The same goes for purposeful spending — you only spend on that which supports your goal, dream, or desire. Spending elsewhere steals the outcome you said you wanted.

It really is quite simple. And, it does bring ease to every decision you must make. The hardest part will be to stick to it as that pesky self imposed, artificial upper limit does its best to derail you.

Oh, and by the way, you can have chocolate whenever you want it. If you want chocolate for dinner — go ahead and have it.

BUT do it on purpose. Be mindful and intentional about it. And, enjoy it to its fullest when you do.